Thursday, May 19, 2011

Don't judge me!

I have been quietly observing people and their reactions to situations, comments, and appearance of things lately. And what I have observed is shocking! Judgment!!!! Why is it so easy to judge before we love? Judge before we pray? Judge before we really know the root of the issue? God has been working in me for the past few months about not being so quick to judge! This blog 100% relates to infertility, adoption, and those going through it....but also in our everyday lives and relationships. I have been in numerous situations where if there is any one person who knows what I have been through I am automatically the center of conversation, questions, and judgment! I understand their curiosity or whatever it may be but it is still very hurtful. I am automatically judged as less than a woman, she can't relate, and so on and so on. I have actually had people be so cruel as to tell me how 'lucky' I am that I didn't ever go through pregnancy, and delivery!!! I understand that they may not have had a pleasant experience, but don't be so quick to judge that everyone will share that feeling! Those kinds of comments make it hard for me to not be judgmental towards them! I just don't understand why I can't just be a mother of two beautiful children who has alot of the same challenges and victories as the rest of the mothers in the world?! Because at the end of the day...that is what it is! I don't know where this 'label' comes from, or how I got it, but I don't like it! People always pry into details of my life, or my children's lives, and just want a juicy tid bit of information to talk about. STOP!!! It doesn't matter about all the how's and why's of ANY situation....let's deal with the facts...I am a mother, same as you and the next person, and that is one label I will never get tired of! The best is when we take a tid bit of the information we pried out of a conversation, and then go and tell others! So by doing this my children get judged! See the cycle forming here?! Prejudice came from pre-judging! It means judging BEFORE you know what you're talking about! So when you see me, if you have questions about our experiences, please email me, call me, or we can meet somewhere and talk about it. That's all I ask...I believe that would be called respect.
"You then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will ALL stand before God's judgment seat." Romans 14:10

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